When we want children to take responsibility for their behaviour, we got to be accepting of kids through all their phases and not just the blindly obedient ones.

We got to accept children with their different ways and manners and thoughts, in their helplessness and frustration and anger and sadness the same way we want to accept them through their happy laughing obedient times.

If you have lived through such a fun-free childhood, reparenting yourself includes giving yourself permission to make honest mistakes and learn better, having the grace to forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know, allowing yourself to be seen and allowing yourself to be happy.

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