True that the fundamentals of feminism are about holding people accountable for their own sexist behaviour without accepting their blind obedience to “this is how it has been all these years”. However, let’s not forget that:

• Accountability begins with the self, with grace, and not with the more familiar self-blaming guilt rush.
• Holding the other person (gender) accountable needs to come from a place of understanding first and accusations later.
• Breaking the (gender) stereotype is not for women alone. It is for men, too.

The fight for gender equity is a fight against a mindset, not against any one section of the community. And, just like there are female patriarchs and male feminists, we are all kinda sexist in some situation or the other, in some way or another.

We got to consciously think through our behaviour towards people from different gender groups to keep our own socially-conditioned-sexism in check.

P.S.: Yes, I talk of just two gender groups here because my understanding of the third gender is only an imagined, perceived understanding, and thus, I do not think I am the right person to say anything. Except, say that everyone’s human and has an inherent right to social respect and dignity.

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